Don't Confuse Common Sense With Bigotry

If a 24 year old, reasonably attractive, white, Western woman began an internet “relationship” with a fat, 63 year old, financially comfortable white man, should he be suspicious of her intentions?

If a 24 year old, reasonably attractive, white, Western man began an internet “relationship” with a fat, 63 year old, financially comfortable white woman, should she be suspicious of his intentions?

Even a cursory understanding of humanity would say yes.

Now, if a 24 year old, reasonably attractive, black, Nigerian man began an internet “relationship” with a fat, 63 year old, financially comfortable white woman, should she be suspicious of his intentions?

Of course! No racial or cultural profiling required … just a modicum of common sense.

The fact that there is a comparatively high incidence of young, West African men targeting older, Western women via the internet is a cultural issue. This income generating meme has spread quickly around West Africa. Western women seem to believe a poor, young African man will be more likely to want them. Perhaps they are also attracted to the “exotic” nature of the “romance”. However, the race of the man is not relevant to estimating the probability the approach is a scam if the age of the woman is much greater: any young man who strikes up a “romantic” internet relationship with a much older woman almost certainly has motives other than romance. Asking for money confirms the hypothesis.

If a foreign man or woman begins an internet relationship with someone in their own age bracket, the strongest predictor of whether they are genuine or instead after money or an immigration sponsor is the economic health of their country. If someone can’t look up GDP statistics, then the person’s race is a predictor of both the economy of their nation and many of its cultural practices. Note that I’m not saying race is a cause of these, but being highly correlated, it is a strong predictor.

So, if you’re younger than mid 30’s and get an approach on a dating site from a foreigner, if they’re from a poor country, don’t be naively pushed by leftist cant into thinking: “I shouldn’t be racist. They might be a nice person.” No they’re not. They’re a grifter. Their race doesn’t make them thus: it’s their poverty.

If you’re a bit older (particularly if you’re no oil painting) and get an approach from someone significantly younger, they are after at least your money and if they’re a foreigner, a permanent residency visa … almost certainly.

Yes, sometimes older men marry women significantly younger than themselves and yes, sometimes these relationships even last many years. But really, these women are for the most part either glorified prostitutes like Rose Porteous and Anna Nicole Smith or seem to have some kind of need for a father figure, like perhaps Brynne Edelsten or Kristy Hinze, although her husband, Jim Clark is the billionaire founder of Netscape, so she could possibly fall into both categories.

The father figure type of relationship can be lasting and genuinely fulfilling for both. However, there is nowhere near sufficient symmetry in men’s and women’s sexuality to make the induction that a woman 30 odd years older can have a lasting, sexual relationship with a young man unless she’s paying him in some way. He might have mummy issues, but they are probably not the kind which make a successful relationship. As a rule, heterosexual women are attracted to masculine power. Heterosexual men aren’t so attracted to feminine power, although there are exceptions eg Seven of Nine. Additionally, men tend not to see much older women as powerful, even if they are successful (they see single ones as lonely and hence vulnerable).

Knowing the above does not require a degree in psychology or a masterful grasp of human relations; just normal, adult experience. It’s common fucking sense.

I feel sorry for Jette Jacobs, being murdered in South Africa in humiliating circumstances, apparently by her Nigerian internet “lover”, whom she had traveled there to meet. According to news reports, they had “known” each other for 4 years, corresponding online and even meeting in South Africa in 2010. She had also sent him at least $80,000 during this time.

Her recent, fateful trip to South Africa was to meet her “lover”, Jesse Orowo Omokoh. One report suggested she believed they would marry.

Even if he did marry her, he’d have been off like a shot as soon as he got his Australian citizenship … or more likely, he’d have divorced her and attempted a claim on some of her assets.

It’s very sad and I feel for the family, having their mother the centerpiece of such a sordid episode. But shouldn’t mentally competent adults be expected to have sufficient common sense not to allow themselves to be led into such obvious scams?

Ultimately, it is not a liberal state’s role to save its citizens from themselves.

What was Jette Jacobs thinking? Did she really think he loved her? Was attracted to her? What did she think would happen after they married?

She might have been a warm, interesting, generous person, but look at her picture. She’s a fat, old lady. Young men don’t fuck fat, old women unless paid.

When a much older man begins a “relationship” with a young woman, he is often viewed as a fool and she a prostitute, especially is she hails from an impoverished country. Some older men don’t care and are happy to have a mistress. Godd luck to them if their eyes are open.

There is no reason why older women shouldn’t do the same, as long as they also keep their eyes open. But Jette Jacobs didn’t.

If you’re an older woman who isn’t in the best shape and get an approach from a much younger man on the internet, try this reality check:

Take off your clothes and stand in front of the mirror. What do you see?

A fat, old bag. Maybe a nice, kindly woman, with a lot of love to give, but nonetheless, in sexual terms, a fat, old bag.

Absent a mental condition, no young man will want to fuck you for free. If he tells you he loves you, it’s not true. Recall the cliché of the sad, lonely, middle aged man who pathetically falls for a prostitute and is then emotionally crushed as he is fleeced and discarded? That’s you, but with a Y chromosome.

Remember Jette Jacobs and don’t confuse common sense with bigotry.